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The Co-Regulation Cheat Sheet

How to help your child find calm, before the words — the five steps we coach parents through in session.

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The Co-Regulation Cheat Sheet from Eat. Play. Love. Pediatric Therapy

Children borrow our calm long before they can make their own. Co-regulation is the skill behind every "calm-down" strategy that actually works — and it starts with your body, not your child's behavior.

This cheat sheet is the exact sequence we teach: calm your own body first, get low and come close, use fewer words, offer the body what it needs, and name the feeling after — not during.

Keep it on the fridge. In the hard moment you won't remember a paragraph, but you'll remember five steps.

Written by Lindsey Wood, MOT, OTR/L — pediatric occupational therapist and founder of Eat. Play. Love.

What's inside

The 5-step co-regulation sequence, in order
Why fewer words work when the thinking brain is offline
What "offer the body what it needs" looks like — pressure, quiet, dim
Why naming feelings comes after the wave, not during
A fridge-ready one-pager

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